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Back to "normal", the Arithmancy classroom had refashioned itself over the few days since the last lesson. The chairs and desks were now arranged in a semi-circle, with the larger desk for Hadley completing the circle. It almost looked like how one might imagine a Kindergarten classroom to appear, minus the large desks with a shelf under them.
Professor Hadley sat perched in the chair at her own desk, her hands placed neatly on top of it. There were however, two items that were normally found in her office which seemed to have made their way to the classroom. If you'd visited the Professors office, you might recognize the faces in the photographs - one containing the Professor herself with her two sisters and the other of her parents.
"Take your seats, we'll begin shortly," Hadley said, rather cheerfully.
ooc: The actual lesson will be begin in approximately 14 hours from now. You're welcome to RP your characters entering, but please limit your chattering. You've been warned. Also, if you haven't submitted your homework, you have until the actual lesson opens. (So ~14 hours). They'll be graded over the weekend/next week - for those who have submitted. The lesson has begun... If you missed RPing your characters entering just pretend like you've been here the whole time. =)
"Another con of chosen family is that they aren't your biological family," she said softly, giving Jaina a tight hug, then continuing her own list. She'd remained quiet and solemn the entire lesson. Family was always a very difficult subject for her.
She picked up her quill and divided a leaf of paper in her notebook into four portions and began to write the pros and cons of both types of families.
Pros of Biological Family
1. Often provide for material needs
2. Often more present in daily life
Cons of Biological Family
1. Want you to adhere to expectations
2. You can't choose them
3. Feel entitled to hurt you because they believe that since you are family you must forgive them
4. Likely not to feel need to accept you
Pros of Chosen Family & Friends
1. Chosen by you
2. Know you well
3. Emotionally present
4. Care about you
5. Accept you the way you are, and because they love you that way, not because they think they have to
Cons of Chosen Family & Friends
1. Not your biological family
2. Might not be accepted by your biological family
That's all I can think of for now, she thought. It's a very comprehensive list, Charley, Henry interjected. Charley could hear that he sounded as if he were about to cry. She herself was welling up as she was forced to think about all the turbulence and tension they had in their family. I know, I know. But with everything we've gone through, there are probably more cons.
There was a longer stretch of silence between them before Henry responded. Maybe there are. If anyone thinks of them, though, it'll be you.
The ends of her mouth curled into a very small smile. Thank you. And I know you're in class still; I apologise about that. You've enough to think about now; I'll, uh, let you go. Oh I almost forgot! Would you tell me next time you are going to Hogsmeade? No need to pop in, a letter will do just fine.
She giggled, and could tell he did as well. I'll be sure to. And, before you go; I love you! I love you too; very much! Enjoy the rest of your day, Charley.
She blinked and sighed in relief. Occlumency is so much work!
She grabbed her quill, and added to the portion of her paper entitled Pros of Chosen Family & Friends:
6. Can assume roles of absent members of biological family
While Henry was part of her biological family, they were much closer than she was to other members, and ever since their father left, he'd taken over as the male head of household, to the chagrin of Charley's other older brother, Nathaniel. Henry was the only father figure their seven-year older Andrew had ever had.
Charley physically hurt to think about the weeks following her parents' split. Her chest tightened, her stomach felt uneasy, her heartbeat sped up, and she had a blasting headache, though that surely was influenced by communicating with Henry.
With a sudden burst of unfortunate inspiration from their conversation, she elaborated even more.
Cons of Biological Family: 5. If they leave, they leave roles in the family that need to be filled.
ooc: sorry for the very long post. I haven't been able to attend to every class consistently enough. Plus poor Charlotte has some intense father issues.
Jaina smiled at Charley. "I don't think that's a con as far as I'm concerned." She meant it, too. It never mattered that they weren't biologically related to her. The fact that they were there was enough for her. She knew her parents wouldn't approve of her friends, and that didn't matter to her either.
She watched Charley as she made her list. She kinda looked like she was off in thought. She even heard her giggle. When she saw her writing, she thought she'd ask. "Charley, what are you doing when you go off in thought like that? It's like you're deep in thought but somewhere else. It's ok if you don't want to tell me. I was just curious."
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Originally Posted by PhoenixRising
Hadley nodded at the girl. These kids did seem to have a better idea about family than when she was their age. But there was something that she said that confused her. "I'm not sure you're ever really better off without your biological family. Even if they don't seem right to you, they are your family. And some day, maybe not today or tomorrow ... or next week, but some day, you will appreciate them." Maybe.
For now while they worked on something. "If you haven't done so already, I'd like for you to take out your notebooks and a quill. Draw a line down the middle of each side of the paper. On one half write 'pros', the other side of the line write 'cons'. Do the same thing on the reverse side of the paper. On the one side of the paper, make a list of pros and cons of Biological families. On the other side, do the same for your other family, made up of your friends and role models.
Feel free to discuss your lists with your peers and we'll continue shortly."
ooc: I'm off to work now... I'll be back online in about 10 hours to continue the lesson then ... and tomorrow. But feel free to discuss with your classmates and keep your lists organized so I can read them easily and give you proper credit. =)
"But Professor, surely if you have an abusive family that do not care about you and only hurt you... then you would be better off without them... how could anyone appreciate being abused?" she asked, stating her point that sometimes... in rare instances, family meant nothing.
Turning her attention to her parchment she drew a line down the middle all the way around to the reverse side. Then labelled each side, first pro's then con's.
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Biological Family PRO'S:
Provides support
Provides guidance
Are there for you
Love you (generally speaking)
Awareness of family history/traditions- pass down to offspring- sense of belonging.
Biological Family CON'S:
May not appreciate you
May not respect you as an individual and try to mould you to their taste
May not have time for you- work committments
Are expected to want you and love you by society- deep down they may not love you or would choose otherwise given the opportunity
Other Family (Friends & Rolemodels) PRO'S:
They chose to be with you
They chose to love you
They appreciate you
They support you
They are aware of your indiviualism
Other Family (Friends & Rolemodels) CON'S:
Their intentions for having you may be bad
They may have their own family already- sense of not belonging
They might not have time for you
They might not appreciate you
They might not respect you as an individual and try to mould you to their taste
They may not understand you and where you came from
They may not be aware of Family medical history
"I'm not sure if it's just me.. but Im seeing a trend in the pro's and con's.. I mean family is family and they share common pro's and con's whether or not they are biological or other."
Families? Hmm. Cedric for one had a lot to say about families. He was a part of a great, though rather small, family! He wasn't really sure where they were headed to in this class by talking about families but he guessed he should just do as their teacher say. It wouldn't hurt to do so anyway.
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BIOLOGICAL FAMILY
PROS:
- They are always there for us.
- Wealth, looks, plenty of good genes... I inherited those from my parents, my only family.
- Mom and Dad are a lot of fun, especially the latter.
- I don't need to be my 'best' self when I'm with them.
- They support me in all of my endeavors... well, not really all. Mom is always vocal of her 'very little indisposition' toward my love for plants and stuffs like photography.
- Having siblings would have been a lot of fun.
CONS:
- They could be taken away just too soon... like Dad.
OTHER FAMILY
PROS:
- You choose them. I choose my friends well.
- They always lend a helping hand.
- Makes me laugh when I'm in gloom.
- They're like siblings to me.
- I look up to them. They're very good influences.
CONS:
- They can't be always around.
- They leave, too.
Cedric practically gaped at his parchment after putting down his quill. This activity could be quite emotionally draining.
[COLOR="#6960EC"]For now while they worked on something. "If you haven't done so already, I'd like for you to take out your notebooks and a quill. Draw a line down the middle of each side of the paper. On one half write 'pros', the other side of the line write 'cons'. Do the same thing on the reverse side of the paper. On the one side of the paper, make a list of pros and cons of Biological families. On the other side, do the same for your other family, made up of your friends and role models.
Feel free to discuss your lists with your peers and we'll continue shortly."
ooc: I'm off to work now... I'll be back online in about 10 hours to continue the lesson then ... and tomorrow. But feel free to discuss with your classmates and keep your lists organized so I can read them easily and give you proper credit. =)
Selina dipped her her phoenix quill in her ink and went to work doing her list.
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Biological Families:
Pros:
They love you unconditional
They are someone for you in the world that through the right and the wrong will stand by your side
When you are down and dejected they are the only one's who will stand by your side
They give you a sense of belonging
They are your family
Cons:
They know you when you are not being yourself and will point it out
When you want to be alone they don't let you because they love you
They are the first to point out when you are being wrong or mean
"Families":
Pros:
They are someone who you can go to about anything
When you need someone to be there they are never far away
They make you laugh and you feel comfortable around them
You choose them, so they are always the people you need
When you love someone to the point of calling them family they are special people
Cons:
When they hurt you it hurts because you choose to put your trust in them
You put yourself at risk putting your heart on the line for a friendship
Sometimes they drift apart from you and there is nothing you can do about it
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Originally Posted by Anna Banana
Sierra peered down at her parchment and frowned. This activity was about her family, for Merlin's sake! Shouldn't she be able to write much more than this?! Feeling the need for a distraction, she let her mind wander to anything and everything but Arithmancy. Why couldn't this be Potions class?! She was actually pretty good at that. This list stuff--now this was something else altogether.
Somewhere in the back of her mind, she thought she heard someone calling her name. She pulled herself out of her thoughts and turned to the person on her side--Evelyn, who was asking for...something. "Hmm?" she asked. Then a second later, she realized her friend had asked for a quill. "Oh, yeah, sure." She fished in her bag and pulled out a spare quill, passing it over to Evelyn.
Hurry up and get something on your parchment, Evelyn! That way I can copy what you've got!
In all seriousness, though, Sierra just needed to put a lot of focus into thinking about her father. He was the family member she was closest to, after all.
Mwahaha!
"Thank you." she smiled, taking the quill and giving a good once over. Seemed ordinary to her, and she hadn't dropped down dead or anything so it wasn't poisoned. Not like Sierra would do that, HA! Just...just being cautious.
Writing the first few words at the top of a new page in her...Ancient Runes notebook, ugh, the Slytherin girl paused for a moment before flipping the page and writing the same thing down before creating the lines and whatnot- OMG! The quill just turned BLUE!
...
Giggle.
It turned bluuueee. That was so awesome. Before she could get distracted anymore what the color changing quill, Evelyn quickly stared jotting random things down in the columns as they appeared in her mind. The trouble was though, she was trying not to get angry as she wrote them down.
SPOILER!!: Evelyn's notebook
FRONT PAGE
Biological Family
Pros
Support and guidance?
The money and reputation is pretty good I suppose.
The house was nice.
Always pushing you to be your best so you don’t embarrass them.
Cons
More room for disappointment from parents to child.
More room for disappointment from child to parents.
Expectations are higher. Not good.
They can have more children. Little brothers specifically.
They say they love you, but deep down, I know they don’t! They can’t wait to get rid of you when you turn seventeen.
They can set all the rules in your life up until you turn seventeen. And even then, some of them still continue.
Always demanding respect because ‘they’re your family’.
Must have a presentable image so you don’t shame, embarrass, or disappoint them.
Competition between siblings and family members can take turns for the worse, effecting people emotionally.
May have other commitments before or more important to them then you.
You know that they’ll be there for you no matter what.
You aren’t stuck with the people that are in your actual family.
You can be more yourself.
You aren’t being judged 24/7.
You are the one that chooses who stays or goes instead of being stuck with...people...that you don't like.
Cons
One should be rather careful with who you choose.
And just through all of those words had the quill turned to yellow, red, green, orange, and purple. OMG! Sierrraaaa...where did ya get the quill hmmm? 'Cause the younger Slytherin girl may have to go buy another one. Evelyn was too attached to this one now.
Rae was sitting silently, and perhaps got a bit more silent when she head what they were listing. She hated talking about family, it just brought bad memories and a sense of loneliness. Her head turned around the room just looking at the people jotting down their pros and cons. Then there was Evelyn, her parents were different in many ways from Rae's. But they both ended up the same way in the same house, there was also similarities in that way. So Rae decided that instead of writing down the things that hurt, (since there weren't many pros in her mind) She will just write down what her friend did.
Rae wasn't sitting too far away from her, maybe a table away. She took a glance at Evelyn's paper, not trying to hide or anything, Ev must know why Rae would use her answers anyways.
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"...And some of them are...for the bad?" Ellie added.
DUDE.
This was like...REAL LIFE. Like...why were they kept out of it? Ellie wanted to KNOW if things were going to affect her.
The third year took out her notebook, drew the lines, and labeled them as instructed. But... Pros...Cons... Who thinks of these things? Her family was...her family. And her friends were her friends.
What was good or bad about either of them?
"Perhaps ... but please ... Miss St-- Ellie. Please. Let's focus on the lesson now. You can come by my office and discuss current events later if you'd like." Professor Hadley urged the girl, really just wanting to move off that topic.
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Originally Posted by Hera
"But Professor, surely if you have an abusive family that do not care about you and only hurt you... then you would be better off without them... how could anyone appreciate being abused?" she asked, stating her point that sometimes... in rare instances, family meant nothing.
Turning her attention to her parchment she drew a line down the middle all the way around to the reverse side. Then labelled each side, first pro's then con's.
"I'm not sure if it's just me.. but Im seeing a trend in the pro's and con's.. I mean family is family and they share common pro's and con's whether or not they are biological or other."
"It might be hard to see now, but even if you're abused by your family, then they still love you. They themselves just likely have insecurities that they take out on you because it helps them feel in control." Ugh, who knew that this would be such a touchy topic with the students these days?
"Yes ... Family is family. And it doesn't really matter whether biological or not, if they've made it into your 'family', then chances are they care about your well-being. But in any family, they can just as easily enter in, as they can break your heart. They affect your mental and emotional well-being. They are, in some sense, your heart, mind, and soul." Family was there to support you, whether you choose them, or they ... chose you.
"In a little while, we're going to go on a mini adventure, but before we do that, I want to show you a quick calculation." She paused as she flipped to the page in the textbook. "Using the Pythagorean number system in chapter two, we're going to do a rather simple calculation of your family name number. Unfortunately for this you're going to have to use your biological family name, although if it's legalized, then I suppose adoptive would work too. Anyone have any idea how to calculate this number?"
Text Cut: Massive listing of pros and cons
BIOLOGICAL FAMILY
PROS:
- They are always going to be there for you.
- They will always love you / they give you unconditional love
- IF they are there for you, then they always will be.
- IF they love you, then they'll never stop loving you.
- There will always be someone in your family who doesn't lose hope in you.
- Family is forever.
- no matter what happens, they will always be your family
- Your family can change, can get better. (e.g. new, caring love interest after father leaves mother for a pretty, younger woman.)
- Provide necessities of life, such as: housing, food, clothing, water
- Provide for material needs
- Often more present in daily life
- If you fall ill and need an organ or blood transplant, they are a match to you.
- we share the same blood type, so if there were a medical emergency we could help one another
- Siblings know what you go through, and help you
- having siblings makes you feel even less alone
- Help you to reach your goals / always pushing you to be your best
- You might inherit their good genes (looks, health, etc.).
- They care for you and care what happens to you.
- they provide a sense of belonging / awareness of family traditions and history
- made up of the people I care about and that care about me
- you always have someone to talk to
- they are always present within yourself because the same blood flowing through their veins is in you
- Provide support and guidance in all your endeavors
- Parents can be fun too!
- When you feel down and dejected, they are ones who will stand by your side.
- They will be with you through the right and the wrong
- Money and reputation, if it's there.
CONS:
- Your "family" isn't always there for you.
- They can be immature.
- Pride, customs and arguments can ruin family relationships.
- Some family members will judge you as if you were your parents.
- You can never win with older family members.
- Family doesn't last for ever / you might lose one to death too soon.
- Families can fall apart and break up.
- Divorce.
- There is the power to disown and disinherit family members, both from wills and the actual family.
- You have to love them, because they're your family.
- Big brothers like to bully you. (PRO: This is only because they love you, though. <3)
- Being compared with said brother by others
- Competition between siblings and family members can take turns for the worse, affecting people emotionally.
- you MUST conform / ideally they want you to adhere to expectations
- Are harder to get rid off as they will always be a part of you (some may put this as a pro)
- Must obey their rules / very strict about certain rules
- Expected to live/do how/what they want without question
- be expected to take over the family business even if it isn't your dream
- Arn't always there when you need them
- Get caught it the middle of arguments you can never get away from
- May not always let you do what you want
- May not get along well / May not accept you
- You might inherit their bad genes (looks, heath, etc.)
- You can't choose them
- Feel entitled to hurt you because they believe since you are family you must forgive them
- If they leave, they leave roles in the family that need to be filled.
- parents push their ideas onto you and insist that they are right
- if there is a history of disease, there is a chance that you will get it as well - like cancer
- have scary grandparents that pinch your cheeks
- they lie to you and keep secrets
- They all suck.
- May not appreciate you or respect you as an individual
- May not have time for you due to other commitments
- They know when you are not being yourself and will point it out
- They are first to point out when you are being wrong or mean
- When you want to be alone, they don't let you because they love you
- More room for disappointment from parents to child. And from child to parents.
- Expectations are higher. Not good.
- They can have more children. Little brothers specifically.
- They say they love you, but deep down, they don’t! They can’t wait to get rid of you when you turn seventeen.
- They can set all the rules in your life up until you turn seventeen. And even then, some of them still continue.
- Always demanding respect because ‘they’re your family’.
- Must have a presentable image so you don’t shame, embarrass, or disappoint them.
- May have other commitments before or more important to them then you.
- You get sucked into their arguments.
- Sometimes forced to choose sides.
FAMILY OF FRIENDS AND ROLE MODELS
PROS:
- You choose who your friends are, and who it is you look up to.
- These people came into your life because they chose to be there, not because they had to be there.
- They care for you and care what happens to you.
- You love your friends for who they are, not because you HAVE to, and vice versa.
- They like you because you ARE you and want to know you
- They accept you for who you are.
- They are fun to be with.
- They are great listeners / Emotionally present
- They're always there for you / Stick with you until the end
- They're loyal
- You always seem to have more in common, therefore more fun with friends
- You can trust them and know (sometimes) they have something in common with you, so they can relate.
- Get along well / know you best out of anyone
- Friend cheer you up and help you get through tough situations
- Can assume roles of absent members of biological family
- Always willing to lend a helping hand
- They are someone who you can go to about anything
- When you need someone to be there they are never far away
- They make you laugh and you feel comfortable around them. You can be yourself.
- You choose them, so they are always the people you need
- When you love someone to the point of calling them family they are special people
- You aren't being judged 24/7.
- You are the one that chooses who stays or goes, instead of being stuck with people you don't like.
- You aren’t stuck with the people that are in your actual family.
CONS:
- Friendships can break up much easier than biological families.
- Sometimes they drift apart from you and there is nothing you can do about it. People change.
- If you hurt them, they'll go away forever / Because they don't have to be in your life, they may leave you for good if something bad (argument, divorce, etc.) ever happens.
- You can choose the wrong friends/role models
- Not your biological family
- Might not be accepted by your biological family
- They all suck.
- Their intentions for having you might be bad
- might try to mold you to their taste
- They have their own family already / sense of not belonging
- Might not have time for you
- They may not be aware of family medical history
- Can't always be around
- When they hurt you, it hurts, because you trusted them
- One should be rather careful with who you choose.
Adoptive Family
Pros
-They chose you, so therefore must WANT you
-They're fair and understanding
-They actually want to know you
-They need you like you need them. To them, your not an accident.
-They can act like a normal family
Cons
-Can turn into/like your old family
-Arn't actually your real parents. (They never gave birth to you) so in that sence, you'll never belong to them
-Other family members may be jelous/dislike you for 'intruding' in their family
- They all suck.
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Kurumi thought for a moment. "Professor, do we find it by adding our father and mother's family's names together?" That made sense to her at least. Just using her father's last name seemed unfair since it wasn't only his blood running through her veins.
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"Perhaps ... but please ... Miss St-- Ellie. Please. Let's focus on the lesson now. You can come by my office and discuss current events later if you'd like." Professor Hadley urged the girl, really just wanting to move off that topic.
"Yes ... Family is family. And it doesn't really matter whether biological or not, if they've made it into your 'family', then chances are they care about your well-being. But in any family, they can just as easily enter in, as they can break your heart. They affect your mental and emotional well-being. They are, in some sense, your heart, mind, and soul." Family was there to support you, whether you choose them, or they ... chose you.
"In a little while, we're going to go on a mini adventure, but before we do that, I want to show you a quick calculation." She paused as she flipped to the page in the textbook. "Using the Pythagorean number system in chapter two, we're going to do a rather simple calculation of your family name number. Unfortunately for this you're going to have to use your biological family name, although if it's legalized, then I suppose adoptive would work too. Anyone have any idea how to calculate this number?"
Text Cut: Massive listing of pros and cons
BIOLOGICAL FAMILY
PROS:
- They are always going to be there for you.
- They will always love you / they give you unconditional love
- IF they are there for you, then they always will be.
- IF they love you, then they'll never stop loving you.
- There will always be someone in your family who doesn't lose hope in you.
- Family is forever.
- no matter what happens, they will always be your family
- Your family can change, can get better. (e.g. new, caring love interest after father leaves mother for a pretty, younger woman.)
- Provide necessities of life, such as: housing, food, clothing, water
- Provide for material needs
- Often more present in daily life
- If you fall ill and need an organ or blood transplant, they are a match to you.
- we share the same blood type, so if there were a medical emergency we could help one another
- Siblings know what you go through, and help you
- having siblings makes you feel even less alone
- Help you to reach your goals / always pushing you to be your best
- You might inherit their good genes (looks, health, etc.).
- They care for you and care what happens to you.
- they provide a sense of belonging / awareness of family traditions and history
- made up of the people I care about and that care about me
- you always have someone to talk to
- they are always present within yourself because the same blood flowing through their veins is in you
- Provide support and guidance in all your endeavors
- Parents can be fun too!
- When you feel down and dejected, they are ones who will stand by your side.
- They will be with you through the right and the wrong
- Money and reputation, if it's there.
CONS:
- Your "family" isn't always there for you.
- They can be immature.
- Pride, customs and arguments can ruin family relationships.
- Some family members will judge you as if you were your parents.
- You can never win with older family members.
- Family doesn't last for ever / you might lose one to death too soon.
- Families can fall apart and break up.
- Divorce.
- There is the power to disown and disinherit family members, both from wills and the actual family.
- You have to love them, because they're your family.
- Big brothers like to bully you. (PRO: This is only because they love you, though. <3)
- Being compared with said brother by others
- Competition between siblings and family members can take turns for the worse, affecting people emotionally.
- you MUST conform / ideally they want you to adhere to expectations
- Are harder to get rid off as they will always be a part of you (some may put this as a pro)
- Must obey their rules / very strict about certain rules
- Expected to live/do how/what they want without question
- be expected to take over the family business even if it isn't your dream
- Arn't always there when you need them
- Get caught it the middle of arguments you can never get away from
- May not always let you do what you want
- May not get along well / May not accept you
- You might inherit their bad genes (looks, heath, etc.)
- You can't choose them
- Feel entitled to hurt you because they believe since you are family you must forgive them
- If they leave, they leave roles in the family that need to be filled.
- parents push their ideas onto you and insist that they are right
- if there is a history of disease, there is a chance that you will get it as well - like cancer
- have scary grandparents that pinch your cheeks
- they lie to you and keep secrets
- They all suck.
- May not appreciate you or respect you as an individual
- May not have time for you due to other commitments
- They know when you are not being yourself and will point it out
- They are first to point out when you are being wrong or mean
- When you want to be alone, they don't let you because they love you
- More room for disappointment from parents to child. And from child to parents.
- Expectations are higher. Not good.
- They can have more children. Little brothers specifically.
- They say they love you, but deep down, they don’t! They can’t wait to get rid of you when you turn seventeen.
- They can set all the rules in your life up until you turn seventeen. And even then, some of them still continue.
- Always demanding respect because ‘they’re your family’.
- Must have a presentable image so you don’t shame, embarrass, or disappoint them.
- May have other commitments before or more important to them then you.
- You get sucked into their arguments.
- Sometimes forced to choose sides.
FAMILY OF FRIENDS AND ROLE MODELS
PROS:
- You choose who your friends are, and who it is you look up to.
- These people came into your life because they chose to be there, not because they had to be there.
- They care for you and care what happens to you.
- You love your friends for who they are, not because you HAVE to, and vice versa.
- They like you because you ARE you and want to know you
- They accept you for who you are.
- They are fun to be with.
- They are great listeners / Emotionally present
- They're always there for you / Stick with you until the end
- They're loyal
- You always seem to have more in common, therefore more fun with friends
- You can trust them and know (sometimes) they have something in common with you, so they can relate.
- Get along well / know you best out of anyone
- Friend cheer you up and help you get through tough situations
- Can assume roles of absent members of biological family
- Always willing to lend a helping hand
- They are someone who you can go to about anything
- When you need someone to be there they are never far away
- They make you laugh and you feel comfortable around them. You can be yourself.
- You choose them, so they are always the people you need
- When you love someone to the point of calling them family they are special people
- You aren't being judged 24/7.
- You are the one that chooses who stays or goes, instead of being stuck with people you don't like.
- You aren’t stuck with the people that are in your actual family.
CONS:
- Friendships can break up much easier than biological families.
- Sometimes they drift apart from you and there is nothing you can do about it. People change.
- If you hurt them, they'll go away forever / Because they don't have to be in your life, they may leave you for good if something bad (argument, divorce, etc.) ever happens.
- You can choose the wrong friends/role models
- Not your biological family
- Might not be accepted by your biological family
- They all suck.
- Their intentions for having you might be bad
- might try to mold you to their taste
- They have their own family already / sense of not belonging
- Might not have time for you
- They may not be aware of family medical history
- Can't always be around
- When they hurt you, it hurts, because you trusted them
- One should be rather careful with who you choose.
Adoptive Family
Pros
-They chose you, so therefore must WANT you
-They're fair and understanding
-They actually want to know you
-They need you like you need them. To them, your not an accident.
-They can act like a normal family
Cons
-Can turn into/like your old family
-Arn't actually your real parents. (They never gave birth to you) so in that sence, you'll never belong to them
-Other family members may be jelous/dislike you for 'intruding' in their family
- They all suck.
No.
The stubbornness in Ellie wanted to continue with this conversation. She wanted to KNOW.
But Hadley HAD called her 'Ellie'...so she supposed that made up for it. Besides, if it was really important, her mommy and daddy would have told her all about it during the holidays. Unless.. you know, this happened post-holidays...
Eh...she'll write home just in case. No need to bother Hadley in her office, though.
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Fieldtrip?!!! YESSSSSS!
Ellie was uber excited by this. She even sat straighter in her chair. Then Hadley ruined it with 'calculation'.
SIGH.
She'd almost forgot this was Arithmancy. With math. And other uselessness she didn't understand. "Is it your last name alone? Added and simplified and..." arithmancy-ed, "stuff." She'll still try, though.
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"It might be hard to see now, but even if you're abused by your family, then they still love you. They themselves just likely have insecurities that they take out on you because it helps them feel in control." Ugh, who knew that this would be such a touchy topic with the students these days?
"Yes ... Family is family. And it doesn't really matter whether biological or not, if they've made it into your 'family', then chances are they care about your well-being. But in any family, they can just as easily enter in, as they can break your heart. They affect your mental and emotional well-being. They are, in some sense, your heart, mind, and soul." Family was there to support you, whether you choose them, or they ... chose you.
"In a little while, we're going to go on a mini adventure, but before we do that, I want to show you a quick calculation." She paused as she flipped to the page in the textbook. "Using the Pythagorean number system in chapter two, we're going to do a rather simple calculation of your family name number. Unfortunately for this you're going to have to use your biological family name, although if it's legalized, then I suppose adoptive would work too. Anyone have any idea how to calculate this number?"
Emily listened to the Professor's reasoning, and though she was right, there were exceptions to the rule. Emily didn't respond, instead she turned to chaper two of her text book....
"Is it a matter of using your biological name- fathers side of course and simplifying it... then doing to same to your mothers biological name and then adding the two together and simplifying that?" she asked... hoping she made sense.
[COLOR="#6960EC"]"Yes ... Family is family. And it doesn't really matter whether biological or not, if they've made it into your 'family', then chances are they care about your well-being. But in any family, they can just as easily enter in, as they can break your heart. They affect your mental and emotional well-being. They are, in some sense, your heart, mind, and soul." Family was there to support you, whether you choose them, or they ... chose you.
"In a little while, we're going to go on a mini adventure, but before we do that, I want to show you a quick calculation." She paused as she flipped to the page in the textbook. "Using the Pythagorean number system in chapter two, we're going to do a rather simple calculation of your family name number. Unfortunately for this you're going to have to use your biological family name, although if it's legalized, then I suppose adoptive would work too. Anyone have any idea how to calculate this number?"
Luin had taken down her notes with her pros and cons and then listened to the professor as she spoke of the family name number. She thought on it for a little while, then tentatively raised her hand in order to answer, "Well..the pythagorean system assigns a number to each letter in the given last name and they are all added together. Although sometimes that would make for a fairly large number, depending upon the name, so perhaps it is divided by the total letters or something?"
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This was probably her favorite Arithmancy ever... because it was about family. Arya LOVED her family, and those friends that were close to her heart. Which would explain why she had difficulty coming up with Cons for both lists. Brown eyes on the professor and the other students, she listened for how to calculate this new number.
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Samira smiled as she heard the assignment. She didn't think that she was going to enjoy arithmancy at first, but family was one of her favorite topics. Quickly scribbling a line down the middle, Samira began writing the pros and cons of a biological family.
Pros: 1. Will always be there for you 2. Will always love you 3. You'll know that they will always be there by your side no matter what 4. With family, you are assured that they are your family forever, unlike friends 5. they can give you help and guidance in life
Cons: 1. You can't pick your family 2. You must follow their rules, even if you don't agree 3. They usually don't allow you to fight back without a punishment 4. they can sometimes neglect you or abuse you and you can't get away 5. They can choose favorites
Pros and cons of unbiological family: Pros 1. they give the best, honest advice 2. They are your shoulder to cry on 3. You can choose your friends, and they choose you, so you can make sure it is the right choice 4. the adventures!
cons: 1. fights or boys can easily break friends up 2. they may not like your other choices of friends, therefore not want to hang out with you 3. they can turn on you with the snap of a finger.
satisfied with her work, Samira leaned back in her chair and waited for her next instructions. She glanced around to see if there was anyone she could strike up a conversation with.
Patroclus loved his family, it was as simple as that. And recently it had become more and more important for them to be close, his mother and Father had both been only children, and both set of Grandparents had moved on, so essentially they were all that was left of their lines.
Turning to the set task, Patroclus had a bit of an issue, his family was his role models, his Mother Father and Brother meant everything to him, and he tired everyday to make them proud and aspired to be like them. However for thr point of the lesson he would just place them in the Biological section!
SPOILER!!: Patroclus' Parchment
Biological Family Pros
Love you un-conditionally
Take you to places you never thought possible
Pass onto you traits that form you into a happy healthy young person
Support you through every decision
Realise that they need you, just as much as you need them
Allow you to borrow their things and are blunt enough to ask for them back
Pass on their genes, their looks, their loves, their dislikes
Share with you their world, their friends
Cons
Can be smothering at times
Second Family Pros
Always there for a laugh
Keep you grounded
The adventures
The NickNames
The jokes, personal and ongoing
The fact that they back you up, in class, in trouble and in life
No matter how different your backgrounds your likes and dislikes it just works
Cons
Not everyone will always get along.....especially if they were 'together'
They can change, and things just no longer feel right
Distance can hurt a friendship
Time can make memories foggy
With his lis complete, Patroclus listening to the next section the use of Numbers to figure out a family name number, "Either what Kurumi said, the mixing of the Maiden Name, and family name, or perhaps the first names of everyone in the family!"
'P' seemed to be a common letter in the Hudson household!
"Yes ... Family is family. And it doesn't really matter whether biological or not, if they've made it into your 'family', then chances are they care about your well-being. But in any family, they can just as easily enter in, as they can break your heart. They affect your mental and emotional well-being. They are, in some sense, your heart, mind, and soul." Family was there to support you, whether you choose them, or they ... chose you.
"In a little while, we're going to go on a mini adventure, but before we do that, I want to show you a quick calculation." She paused as she flipped to the page in the textbook. "Using the Pythagorean number system in chapter two, we're going to do a rather simple calculation of your family name number. Unfortunately for this you're going to have to use your biological family name, although if it's legalized, then I suppose adoptive would work too. Anyone have any idea how to calculate this number?"
Oh man... that was confusing. So... Jake could find the Blackly-Upstead name, or he could do the Lawson name... which could confuse people since everyone now knew him as Morgan (or 'that Upstead Lawson Morgan kid').
Shrugging his shoulders though he knew PERFECTLY well how to find that number, Jake quickly scribbled a real list.
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Families
They all suck.
Biological Family
Pros:
They HAVE to look after you even if they don't like you. They HAVE to be there.
Parents brought you into the world.
They can always be on your 'side' if something happens outside of the home (as a matter of family unity)
A lot of the time they do love you unconditionally.
They sometimes see you as belonging to the family, and straying away is like betrayal.
Cons:
Even though they have to be there and look after you, sometimes they don't.
You'll rarely get an honest answer about if they actually like you.
If they split up, you can be shipped around forever.
If you're taken from them, you have to try and find a new family.
Friends and Role Models
I definitely have these, it's not that I'm not writing because I don't know.
Adoptive family
Pros:
You choose them and they choose you.
Becuse of the care system, if you're treated wrongly, you never have to stay, but that never happened with me.
They love you.
Cons:
You have to legally change your surname which is pure hassle. You wouldn't believe how many times my surname has been legally changed.
You're often stuck with the name your original parents gave you. It's a good job I like my name.
They'll never treasure you like they do when they have their own child.
You'll always be thought of as 'my adoptive son'.
They have no baby pictures of you.
It takes a while to get used to what family is... because things are different.
They break up, just like other families. But in a way, this is worse. You feel for once like you're loved and in a place where you belong. You don't have a broken family and everything will be fine for the rest of your life. But then you go away for a year to be educated by someone, and you come back to find that your parents have split, your mother isn't living in that house anymore and your father won't even speak to you, at least at first. It hurts, but you have to deal with it, like you deal with everything else. Then you find out all the stuff you'd rather not know and end up blanking one of the parents, even though you love them. Their marriage was a mistake, so their adopting a son was definitely a mistake.
He put down his quill, having missed out one section completely, because he wasn't sure what to put. He was busy getting a little too personal on his last one without realising. And getting teary-eyed. But that would go away soon.
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Kurumi thought for a moment. "Professor, do we find it by adding our father and mother's family's names together?" That made sense to her at least. Just using her father's last name seemed unfair since it wasn't only his blood running through her veins.
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Emily listened to the Professor's reasoning, and though she was right, there were exceptions to the rule. Emily didn't respond, instead she turned to chaper two of her text book....
"Is it a matter of using your biological name- fathers side of course and simplifying it... then doing to same to your mothers biological name and then adding the two together and simplifying that?" she asked... hoping she made sense.
"Not quite," Professor Hadley said, shaking her head sadly at the two girls.
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No.
The stubbornness in Ellie wanted to continue with this conversation. She wanted to KNOW.
But Hadley HAD called her 'Ellie'...so she supposed that made up for it. Besides, if it was really important, her mommy and daddy would have told her all about it during the holidays. Unless.. you know, this happened post-holidays...
Eh...she'll write home just in case. No need to bother Hadley in her office, though.
....
Fieldtrip?!!! YESSSSSS!
Ellie was uber excited by this. She even sat straighter in her chair. Then Hadley ruined it with 'calculation'.
SIGH.
She'd almost forgot this was Arithmancy. With math. And other uselessness she didn't understand. "Is it your last name alone? Added and simplified and..." arithmancy-ed, "stuff." She'll still try, though.
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Luin had taken down her notes with her pros and cons and then listened to the professor as she spoke of the family name number. She thought on it for a little while, then tentatively raised her hand in order to answer, "Well..the pythagorean system assigns a number to each letter in the given last name and they are all added together. Although sometimes that would make for a fairly large number, depending upon the name, so perhaps it is divided by the total letters or something?"
The next two though represented their house well, as they gave precisely the correct answer. "Yes. One point to each of you. The family name number is calculated by assigning each letter in the surname with the appropriate number, then adding those numbers together and reducing the sum to a single-digit, unless we get a Master Number, in which case we do not reduce. Can I have some volunteers please?" Professor Hadley asked, looking around the classroom. Ugh. They were all so exhausted. Pity.
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Patroclus loved his family, it was as simple as that. And recently it had become more and more important for them to be close, his mother and Father had both been only children, and both set of Grandparents had moved on, so essentially they were all that was left of their lines.
Turning to the set task, Patroclus had a bit of an issue, his family was his role models, his Mother Father and Brother meant everything to him, and he tired everyday to make them proud and aspired to be like them. However for thr point of the lesson he would just place them in the Biological section!
SPOILER!!: Patroclus' Parchment
Biological Family Pros
Love you un-conditionally
Take you to places you never thought possible
Pass onto you traits that form you into a happy healthy young person
Support you through every decision
Realise that they need you, just as much as you need them
Allow you to borrow their things and are blunt enough to ask for them back
Pass on their genes, their looks, their loves, their dislikes
Share with you their world, their friends
Cons
Can be smothering at times
Second Family Pros
Always there for a laugh
Keep you grounded
The adventures
The NickNames
The jokes, personal and ongoing
The fact that they back you up, in class, in trouble and in life
No matter how different your backgrounds your likes and dislikes it just works
Cons
Not everyone will always get along.....especially if they were 'together'
They can change, and things just no longer feel right
Distance can hurt a friendship
Time can make memories foggy
With his lis complete, Patroclus listening to the next section the use of Numbers to figure out a family name number, "Either what Kurumi said, the mixing of the Maiden Name, and family name, or perhaps the first names of everyone in the family!"
'P' seemed to be a common letter in the Hudson household!
Someone loved their family. Josephina had the distinct feeling that Prefect Hudson over there had a loving and supportive upbringing. A household that could almost be considered normal, if there was such a thing.
ooc: Just so you guys know, you're more than welcome to post Pro/Con lists if you haven't done so already... As well as write on your parchments about the family question, as Nixy! did... That is, if you want the participation credit =)
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"Not quite," Professor Hadley said, shaking her head sadly at the two girls.
The next two though represented their house well, as they gave precisely the correct answer. "Yes. One point to each of you. The family name number is calculated by assigning each letter in the surname with the appropriate number, then adding those numbers together and reducing the sum to a single-digit, unless we get a Master Number, in which case we do not reduce. Can I have some volunteers please?" Professor Hadley asked, looking around the classroom. Ugh. They were all so exhausted. Pity.
Someone loved their family. Josephina had the distinct feeling that Prefect Hudson over there had a loving and supportive upbringing. A household that could almost be considered normal, if there was such a thing.
ooc: Just so you guys know, you're more than welcome to post Pro/Con lists if you haven't done so already... As write on your parchments about the family question, as Nixy! did... That is, if you want the participation credit =)
Emily jotted down the correct answer on her parchment, then looked back up at the Professor...
Had she just asked for a vollunteer?... vollunteer to do what exactly? she thought.
Feeling a bit uncertain Emily raised her hand, "I'd like to vollunteer", she said.
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The next two though represented their house well, as they gave precisely the correct answer. "Yes. One point to each of you. The family name number is calculated by assigning each letter in the surname with the appropriate number, then adding those numbers together and reducing the sum to a single-digit, unless we get a Master Number, in which case we do not reduce. Can I have some volunteers please?" Professor Hadley asked, looking around the classroom. Ugh. They were all so exhausted. Pity.
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Omg, she was way too distracted. She was going to ask Sierra for another quill but, well the Professor started speaking and the quill just changed to red. Teehee. It was all Gryffindor like now. Oh crud, it was all Gryffindor like...now. Meh. Darn thing. Turn colors again!
MEEP!?
"Yea." she nodded slowly, looking up and towards Professor Hadley. Wait, did she ask her a question? Or did she just...wait, what? Awwww volunteeeeers. Eh. "Yeaaa, I'll...volunteer." Sierra! She needed a different quill. Or maybe Rae had one. When did she get here?
*will add pros/cons list in next post...or at some point*
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Oooh. The Professor wanted some volunteers. Now Finn had a bit of a dilema. He could either sit back, and like not volunteer himself, or he could be a good prefect and volunteer himself. Now...he did want to try and be a good role model for Ravenclaw, show that he was a good prefect and all that jazz. So he decided that it probably would be a good idea for him to volunteer. As long as he wasn't going to regret it or something, because that would be really bad.
"I'll volunteer Professor." Good Work Carmicheal.
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All through the lesson the Gryffindor prefect Connolly had kept her head low and focused on completeing the different tasks set by Professor Hadley. Writing up the pros/cons with her own family had made Sophie think about them more than she had done so far in the term. The brunette even got slightly homesick. When Professor Hadley asked for volunteers Sophie raised her voice from the back of the room. "I'll volunteer professor!" This was probably a stupid move which Sophie would regret later but she genuinly liked Professor Hadley and wanted to give her a hand in the lesson.
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Jake raised his hand. Sure he'd volunteer.
It might serve as a distraction.
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Emily jotted down the correct answer on her parchment, then looked back up at the Professor...
Had she just asked for a vollunteer?... vollunteer to do what exactly? she thought.
Feeling a bit uncertain Emily raised her hand, "I'd like to vollunteer", she said.
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Omg, she was way too distracted. She was going to ask Sierra for another quill but, well the Professor started speaking and the quill just changed to red. Teehee. It was all Gryffindor like now. Oh crud, it was all Gryffindor like...now. Meh. Darn thing. Turn colors again!
MEEP!?
"Yea." she nodded slowly, looking up and towards Professor Hadley. Wait, did she ask her a question? Or did she just...wait, what? Awwww volunteeeeers. Eh. "Yeaaa, I'll...volunteer." Sierra! She needed a different quill. Or maybe Rae had one. When did she get here?
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All through the lesson the Gryffindor prefect Connolly had kept her head low and focused on completeing the different tasks set by Professor Hadley. Writing up the pros/cons with her own family had made Sophie think about them more than she had done so far in the term. The brunette even got slightly homesick. When Professor Hadley asked for volunteers Sophie raised her voice from the back of the room. "I'll volunteer professor!" This was probably a stupid move which Sophie would regret later but she genuinly liked Professor Hadley and wanted to give her a hand in the lesson.
Ah ... perfect. Five volunteers ... One from each house and one extra from Ravenclaw? What to do about Prefect Carmicheal now? She'd think of something for him to calculate. Maybe the lines on his hand? Shaking her head, she shook that thought off.
"Perfect. You four. Come up to the chalkboard and calculate the family name number for your respective head of house." Because they should all know who that was and if they didn't? Then they had a problem.
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Oooh. The Professor wanted some volunteers. Now Finn had a bit of a dilema. He could either sit back, and like not volunteer himself, or he could be a good prefect and volunteer himself. Now...he did want to try and be a good role model for Ravenclaw, show that he was a good prefect and all that jazz. So he decided that it probably would be a good idea for him to volunteer. As long as he wasn't going to regret it or something, because that would be really bad.
"I'll volunteer Professor." Good Work Carmicheal.
Now what to do about the slow Ravenclaw? "You sir. Can come on up as well..." And clean up the chalk dust. Explain why it's necessary to be quick? "And you're going to interpret the meanings for each of the family name numbers of each of the heads of houses." You better not let me down, Carmicheal. Or I'll be speaking to Max personally.
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Jake smiled slightly and headed up to the front, picking up the chalking and writing a childish 'M' up there... and then stopping.
...
And biting his lip.
Uhhh...
Looking over at Hadley with slight worry, Jake quietened his voice and spoke to the woman. "How d'you spell her name?" Morrettee? More-et-ee? Muhretty?
Jake wasn't GOOD with reading and writing and spelling. WHY HAD HE VOLUNTEERED?!
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Ah ... perfect. Five volunteers ... One from each house and one extra from Ravenclaw? What to do about Prefect Carmicheal now? She'd think of something for him to calculate. Maybe the lines on his hand? Shaking her head, she shook that thought off.
"Perfect. You four. Come up to the chalkboard and calculate the family name number for your respective head of house." Because they should all know who that was and if they didn't? Then they had a problem.
Now what to do about the slow Ravenclaw? "You sir. Can come on up as well..." And clean up the chalk dust. Explain why it's necessary to be quick? "And you're going to interpret the meanings for each of the family name numbers of each of the heads of houses." You better not let me down, Carmicheal. Or I'll be speaking to Max personally.
Emily walked up to the black board, her head of house... hhmmm who could forget the very attractive Professor Vindictus.
Picking up a piece of chalk Emily wrote up the Professor's biological name, then she began to calculate his Family name number.
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