you don't sound like an idiot. It's just... harsh is the right term. I mean, I'm all for conformity, like yay! and all, but non-conformity doesn't necessarily mean you'll stand out, or that you shouldn't take a stand. I mean there are those who are just TOO much, but it's all about self control and confidence. i agree that things always get hypocritical, but one shouldn't just "give in". i dont know, i'm stupid, so i dont even know if i'm understanding it right.