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emjay · 06-27-2015, 01:22 AM

SPOILER!!: Adi and Benjamin

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Originally Posted by FearlessLeader19

More cookies! Awesomeee! But right now Adi would set aside the treat and tea for now because he was too busy wiggling the crow around so that it seemed as though it were dancing while he frowned at Benny. What actions EXACTLY? Did he mean Henric and him hanging out so often? What's wrong with that? He hang out with a lot of persons. Practically the entire school. It wasn't his fault that his craziness was liked and accepted.

He threw Benny a shake of the head before turning to Glendower. "Yes, Professor. I thought he would have known better. He's supposed to be the sane, secure person in this friendship. Er... ex friendship?'' Whereas Adi was the crazy, insecure one so they balanced each other well. Or was supposed to.

He nodded at the Profssor's next suggestion then stopped wiggling Mr Crow. "I feel... felt hurt, sad and angry that you doubted our brotherho... friendship because I thought you knew that you're not replaceable even though I said you were.'' Adi kept his eyes focus on the turtle because he was not going to look at Benny lest he decided to upturn the cup of tea on his head or pelt him with bits of cookies.

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Originally Posted by Holmesian Feline

Again there was a silence after they had both spoken. Ben couldn't think of anything else to say and Adi appeared not to be willing to remark on his own response. The Gryffindor wondered if that was a good or bad thing. Professor Glendower certainly hit the nail on the head as she tried to clarify with his friend....ex-friend. Doubted his friendship...yep...and Adi in turn only cemented it.

His gaze downcast as the woman started them off again, he listened as she further explained what she wanted out of them. All about feelings which was certainly not something Benny was used to talking about. Even was he was more in the mood to talk. He was more than willing to allow Adi to go first and he listened reluctantly to what was said and being more than a little confused.

Him the sane one...him the clearer head? The Hufflepuff realised that he himself was the one who had it all together while Benny was the shy quiet backwards one...right?

All too soon it was his turn and all Ben could do was stare at the crow in the other boy's grasp, the faux creature that flapped at his fri-ex-friend's will. "I feel...lost and confused," he started out as he tried to gather his words the way the professor wanted them to speak. "...when I think I hear you calling me by the nickname you gave me that's grown on me over the years...and its for him instead." Ben didn't have to explain that Henny and Benny really did sound so similar....right?

"I feel...out of place when you both manage to beat me to class...coming from the same common room...and there's no space for me around." Sure he had dealt with sharing Adi with the school all the time, the Hufflepuff really was one of if not the most popular person in Hogwarts. And AJ was a given with their relationship status. But lately is seemed it was alway Henric there beside him...working with him.

And Adi did a good job of rubbing it in his face earlier in class.

Didn't help that professors tended to always pit the badgers against the lions.
Absently playing with the turtle puppet on his hand, Ben sighed softly as he thought of one final remark. "I feel hurt...and jealous...whenever you talk directly to Henric all about dragons..." Brief look away from both Adi and the crow. "And the only time you're interested in the creatures around me is when you talk out turning me into one. You don't even use the other nickname anymore."

There was more tea sipping as Nessa watched the two boys carefully, hoping that their little exercise was helping to work things out between them. But she furrowed her brow a bit as Adi answered the question she had posed to him. "But making assumptions like that places too much of the responsibility on one person, and that is hardly fair. We should never tell someone what they are supposed to be, instead we accept them who they uniquely are." She frowned when he said 'ex-friend'. "I dearly hope that that is not the case. Friendships are far too precious to simply disregard them without at least trying to solve any issues that inevitably come up. Even the best of friends don't always see eye to eye, but that does not mean they cannot be friends."

She waited for them to begin again, hopefully following her model a little more closely. Adi went first again. She listened and nodded as he spoke through and to the puppets. Yes, that was better. And then she turned and watched Benjamin as he took his turn next. Oh my, there really was a lot going on here. Many hurt feelings and what she was sure were misunderstandings. But wasn't that nearly always the case when friends came at odds?

"Okay.. thank you so much for sharing your feelings," she said to them both, smiling very compassionately. "I know that can be a difficult thing sometimes, but it's important to see how each other is feeling and to begin to understand why." She looked to both, still softly smiling and tried to expand on what they already said. "Adi, you say that you felt all those upsetting feelings because you felt that Benjamin doubted your friendship, even after you assured him that he was irreplaceable. And those are very valid feelings. It is not a good feeling to have someone loose faith in you. But can you see why Benjamin could have those doubts? His feelings are valid also."

She looked at the Gryffindor and gave him a small smile. Nessa would not discount either of the boys' feelings, but it appeared to her that Benjamin was really taking the brunt of this row. "Even though you say that Benjamin could not be replaced by another friend, Adi, I'm hearing him say that some of the things you have done felt very much like that to him, whether you intended that or not. It's often difficult to watch a new friendship blossom and feel like you are watching from the sidelines. It's easy to feel left out. Can you try to understand why he might feel that way?" It was one thing to expect someone to take you at your word, but if the actions didn't reflect that, it made it even more difficult.

"I want each of you to take a minute to really hear what the other has said. Reflect for a moment how the other person said they felt and try to understand what they felt like. Oftentimes we might say or do things without really thinking about how another person might be affected, but it's important to know that our actions have consequences and own up to them." She'd let them think on that a moment before moving on.

06-27-2015, 01:22 AM	#14 (permalink)
emjay DMAC & DERP Pygmy Puff Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: working Posts: 18,079 Hogwarts RPG Name: Phoenix Marchbanks Ravenclaw Fourth Year Hogwarts RPG Name: Wiley Whittebrook Hufflepuff Second Year x12 x5	Unforgivably Cursed \| adultescent SPOILER!!: Adi and Benjamin Quote: Originally Posted by FearlessLeader19 More cookies! Awesomeee! But right now Adi would set aside the treat and tea for now because he was too busy wiggling the crow around so that it seemed as though it were dancing while he frowned at Benny. What actions EXACTLY? Did he mean Henric and him hanging out so often? What's wrong with that? He hang out with a lot of persons. Practically the entire school. It wasn't his fault that his craziness was liked and accepted. He threw Benny a shake of the head before turning to Glendower. "Yes, Professor. I thought he would have known better. He's supposed to be the sane, secure person in this friendship. Er... ex friendship?'' Whereas Adi was the crazy, insecure one so they balanced each other well. Or was supposed to. He nodded at the Profssor's next suggestion then stopped wiggling Mr Crow. "I feel... felt hurt, sad and angry that you doubted our brotherho... friendship because I thought you knew that you're not replaceable even though I said you were.'' Adi kept his eyes focus on the turtle because he was not going to look at Benny lest he decided to upturn the cup of tea on his head or pelt him with bits of cookies. Quote: Originally Posted by Holmesian Feline Again there was a silence after they had both spoken. Ben couldn't think of anything else to say and Adi appeared not to be willing to remark on his own response. The Gryffindor wondered if that was a good or bad thing. Professor Glendower certainly hit the nail on the head as she tried to clarify with his friend....ex-friend. Doubted his friendship...yep...and Adi in turn only cemented it. His gaze downcast as the woman started them off again, he listened as she further explained what she wanted out of them. All about feelings which was certainly not something Benny was used to talking about. Even was he was more in the mood to talk. He was more than willing to allow Adi to go first and he listened reluctantly to what was said and being more than a little confused. Him the sane one...him the clearer head? The Hufflepuff realised that he himself was the one who had it all together while Benny was the shy quiet backwards one...right? All too soon it was his turn and all Ben could do was stare at the crow in the other boy's grasp, the faux creature that flapped at his fri-ex-friend's will. "I feel...lost and confused," he started out as he tried to gather his words the way the professor wanted them to speak. "...when I think I hear you calling me by the nickname you gave me that's grown on me over the years...and its for him instead." Ben didn't have to explain that Henny and Benny really did sound so similar....right? "I feel...out of place when you both manage to beat me to class...coming from the same common room...and there's no space for me around." Sure he had dealt with sharing Adi with the school all the time, the Hufflepuff really was one of if not the most popular person in Hogwarts. And AJ was a given with their relationship status. But lately is seemed it was alway Henric there beside him...working with him. And Adi did a good job of rubbing it in his face earlier in class. Didn't help that professors tended to always pit the badgers against the lions. Absently playing with the turtle puppet on his hand, Ben sighed softly as he thought of one final remark. "I feel hurt...and jealous...whenever you talk directly to Henric all about dragons..." Brief look away from both Adi and the crow. "And the only time you're interested in the creatures around me is when you talk out turning me into one. You don't even use the other nickname anymore." There was more tea sipping as Nessa watched the two boys carefully, hoping that their little exercise was helping to work things out between them. But she furrowed her brow a bit as Adi answered the question she had posed to him. "But making assumptions like that places too much of the responsibility on one person, and that is hardly fair. We should never tell someone what they are supposed to be, instead we accept them who they uniquely are." She frowned when he said 'ex-friend'. "I dearly hope that that is not the case. Friendships are far too precious to simply disregard them without at least trying to solve any issues that inevitably come up. Even the best of friends don't always see eye to eye, but that does not mean they cannot be friends." She waited for them to begin again, hopefully following her model a little more closely. Adi went first again. She listened and nodded as he spoke through and to the puppets. Yes, that was better. And then she turned and watched Benjamin as he took his turn next. Oh my, there really was a lot going on here. Many hurt feelings and what she was sure were misunderstandings. But wasn't that nearly always the case when friends came at odds? "Okay.. thank you so much for sharing your feelings," she said to them both, smiling very compassionately. "I know that can be a difficult thing sometimes, but it's important to see how each other is feeling and to begin to understand why." She looked to both, still softly smiling and tried to expand on what they already said. "Adi, you say that you felt all those upsetting feelings because you felt that Benjamin doubted your friendship, even after you assured him that he was irreplaceable. And those are very valid feelings. It is not a good feeling to have someone loose faith in you. But can you see why Benjamin could have those doubts? His feelings are valid also." She looked at the Gryffindor and gave him a small smile. Nessa would not discount either of the boys' feelings, but it appeared to her that Benjamin was really taking the brunt of this row. "Even though you say that Benjamin could not be replaced by another friend, Adi, I'm hearing him say that some of the things you have done felt very much like that to him, whether you intended that or not. It's often difficult to watch a new friendship blossom and feel like you are watching from the sidelines. It's easy to feel left out. Can you try to understand why he might feel that way?" It was one thing to expect someone to take you at your word, but if the actions didn't reflect that, it made it even more difficult. "I want each of you to take a minute to really hear what the other has said. Reflect for a moment how the other person said they felt and try to understand what they felt like. Oftentimes we might say or do things without really thinking about how another person might be affected, but it's important to know that our actions have consequences and own up to them." She'd let them think on that a moment before moving on. __________________ started like a knight in a fairytale_______________________________________________ ended like a moth in flames______________________ ______________________don't you worry I'll be fine _________________________________________________you were good for the plot line