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PhoenixRising 
Hadley nodded at the girl. These kids did seem to have a better idea about family than when she was their age. But there was something that she said that confused her. "I'm not sure you're ever really better off without your biological family. Even if they don't seem right to you, they are your family. And some day, maybe not today or tomorrow ... or next week, but some day, you will appreciate them." Maybe.
For now while they worked on something. "If you haven't done so already, I'd like for you to take out your notebooks and a quill. Draw a line down the middle of each side of the paper. On one half write 'pros', the other side of the line write 'cons'. Do the same thing on the reverse side of the paper. On the one side of the paper, make a list of pros and cons of Biological families. On the other side, do the same for your other family, made up of your friends and role models.
Feel free to discuss your lists with your peers and we'll continue shortly."
ooc: I'm off to work now... I'll be back online in about 10 hours to continue the lesson then ... and tomorrow. But feel free to discuss with your classmates and keep your lists organized so I can read them easily and give you proper credit. =)
"But Professor, surely if you have an abusive family that do not care about you and only hurt you... then you would be better off without them... how could anyone appreciate being abused?" she asked, stating her point that sometimes... in rare instances, family meant nothing.
Turning her attention to her parchment she drew a line down the middle all the way around to the reverse side. Then labelled each side, first pro's then con's.
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Biological Family PRO'S:- Provides support
- Provides guidance
- Are there for you
- Love you (generally speaking)
- Awareness of family history/traditions- pass down to offspring- sense of belonging.
Biological Family CON'S:- May not appreciate you
- May not respect you as an individual and try to mould you to their taste
- May not have time for you- work committments
- Are expected to want you and love you by society- deep down they may not love you or would choose otherwise given the opportunity
Other Family (Friends & Rolemodels) PRO'S:- They chose to be with you
- They chose to love you
- They appreciate you
- They support you
- They are aware of your indiviualism
Other Family (Friends & Rolemodels) CON'S:- Their intentions for having you may be bad
- They may have their own family already- sense of not belonging
- They might not have time for you
- They might not appreciate you
- They might not respect you as an individual and try to mould you to their taste
- They may not understand you and where you came from
- They may not be aware of Family medical history
"I'm not sure if it's just me.. but Im seeing a trend in the pro's and con's.. I mean family is family and they share common pro's and con's whether or not they are biological or other."